Your three year old is smearing food on the wall instead of getting her shoes on. Your spouse walked away from you in the middle of an argument, again. That coworker is constantly thwarting your efforts.

In our primary relationships there are usually times when we feel our needs are not getting met.
This feels terrible and is very scary. We often panic and begin to doubt whether this relationship is worth staying with.

When we have enough inner strength and outer support in our present life, something begins to happen. And it can be very confusing.