Private Sessions
I have some limited openings for new clients! Please use this contact form if you would like to work with me.
You’ve been going along in your life, coping, just getting by. But that’s not good enough for you anymore. You want to feel you are doing something meaningful and doing it well.
You feel like life is asking more of you lately. You’re stressed and unsure how to move forward in your life. Everything feels hard.
You long for more stability. More confidence. But sometimes it’s hard to get yourself going. You feel full of doubt. You hesitate. You feel unsure what to do.
You’ve been trying to improve your situation…
You may have tried counseling or coaching. You can recognize and name your problems, but they don’t change. You’ve read books, listened to podcasts, taken classes or workshops. You’ve tried toughing it out, pushing through. You might have found approaches that make sense and resonate with you, but you give up after the first few steps and feel even worse. You’ve tried to will yourself to change. You’ve tried changing everyone else. You’ve tried to point out other people’s problems, in hopes that their change would make your life easier, but it doesn’t. You may feel you’ve tried everything!
When you feel this way, it’s important to understand the roots of your difficulties. If you look closely you will see that all of your problems, challenges and confusions are based on how you relate to yourself, the important people in your life, and the world.
It’s all about relationship.
Our relational fears and expectations run our lives if we don’t find a way to re-pattern them.
Our patterns of relating and the unconscious expectations of what will or won’t happen in our lives are wired into our brains, bodies and hearts from the very earliest part of our lives. We learn them implicitly from our families and our culture. They are so foundational to our way of viewing the world that we are mostly unaware of them and how strongly they affect our lives now.
- A man whose mother was depressed consistently falls for melancholy women who cannot receive the care he offers.
- A woman who learned to manage and manipulate everyone’s emotions in her chaotic family of origin is now in a leadership position but often finds others resenting her and challenging her leadership and she can’t figure out why.
- A man experienced as a child that when he was ill everyone was kinder to him has developed chronic illness as an adult.
To free yourself from your stuck relational patterns, you need a balanced approach, which includes:
- Understanding how your brain works relationally and how to work with your natural process of healing rather than struggling against it.
- Uncovering the roots of your relational difficulties and building new pathways.
- Experiences of what’s called “embodied attunement” — which means that you can feel in your body that sense of rightness and clarity and love in connecting to someone, so you can easily return there over and over again.
- Guidance to the process of healing and integration from someone who knows the territory and can help you understand what you are feeling.
- More confidence — you trust yourself to handle the challenges in your life.
- More resiliency — you have more choice about how you respond to other’s behavior and feelings. You are less likely to collapse, blow up, or shut down.
- An ease of relating. With your partner, your children or anyone you care about, there is less tension and more joy.
- The ability to stay fully present with yourself and your own needs as you relate to others.
- Your wholeness allows you to genuinely benefit everyone around you.
We’ll meet once a week for 75 minute sessions. All sessions are happening remotely over zoom or phone during the pandemic.
I do 75 minute sessions because this allows time for talking, experiential processes and integration. I’ve found this is the ideal length for this work.
I recommend meeting weekly because research has shown that during the re-patterning process, the system stays open for about a week. My experience is that the re-patterning happens much more quickly when meeting weekly and slows significantly when meeting less often. It’s an intensive schedule that is optimal for the process. I recommend three months as a minimum amount of time to discover and strengthen new pathways.
- Personalized practices to work with in your daily life. I'll get to know you and your story and give you practices precisely attuned to you.
- Ongoing email support — I will email you instructions for your personalized practices. I'm also available to answer questions that arise between sessions through email.
The process of embodied relational healing is for individuals that want to significantly heal their relational challenges and are committed to doing so.
The cost for this program is $150/session
This is an investment in your quality of life for years to come.
Contact Me